How to Use Sex Toys
To use a sex toy, clean it before and after every use, use a lubricant that's compatible with its material (water-based if it's silicone), start on the lowest intensity and stop if it hurts. Here's the step-by-step with vibrators and anal toys, so you can enjoy them safely and comfortably, on your own or with a partner.
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Getting ready
1.
Clean your toy
Always before and after every use, with warm water and mild unscented soap. If it has a motor, don't submerge it unless the product details say it's fully waterproof (submersible).
Always before and after every use, with warm water and mild unscented soap. If it has a motor, don't submerge it unless the product details say it's fully waterproof (submersible).
2.
Charge the battery
If it's rechargeable, make sure it's fully charged.
If it's rechargeable, make sure it's fully charged.
3.
Set the mood
Privacy, comfort, a pleasant temperature. Take your time.
Privacy, comfort, a pleasant temperature. Take your time.
4.
Use lubricant
It reduces friction and makes insertion easier. With silicone toys, use water-based lubricant (silicone lubricant damages the surface), and with latex condoms, avoid oils.
It reduces friction and makes insertion easier. With silicone toys, use water-based lubricant (silicone lubricant damages the surface), and with latex condoms, avoid oils.
Using Vibrators
External stimulation
- • Start on the lowest intensity
- • Explore different areas: clitoris, labia, perineum
- • Try circular movements, gentle pressure, different angles
- • Gradually increase the intensity based on how you respond
Internal stimulation
- • Use plenty of lubricant
- • Insert slowly, and listen to your body
- • Experiment with different depths and angles
- • For the G-spot: feel towards the belly, a few centimetres inside the entrance, for an area with a spongy texture or small ridges
Anal Toys
⚠️ Golden rules for anal play
1
Always use a wide base
The rectum has no natural stop: a toy without a wide base can travel up and stay inside, and if it doesn't come out calmly you need to go to A&E.
The rectum has no natural stop: a toy without a wide base can travel up and stay inside, and if it doesn't come out calmly you need to go to A&E.
2
Plenty of lubricant
The anal area doesn't lubricate naturally. Use a thick lubricant and reapply it as needed; if the toy is silicone, make sure it's water-based.
The anal area doesn't lubricate naturally. Use a thick lubricant and reapply it as needed; if the toy is silicone, make sure it's water-based.
3
Go slowly
Relax, breathe, and let your body adapt gradually.
Relax, breathe, and let your body adapt gradually.
4
Listen to your body
If it hurts, stop. Mild discomfort is normal; pain is not. And don't move a toy from the anus to the vagina without washing it first or changing the condom: it carries gut bacteria.
If it hurts, stop. Mild discomfort is normal; pain is not. And don't move a toy from the anus to the vagina without washing it first or changing the condom: it carries gut bacteria.
As a Couple
- • Talk to each other: Talk beforehand about what you want to try and set boundaries.
- • Explore together : Use the toy on each other, take turns, discover things together. If you're sharing it, put a new condom on the toy for each person or wash it thoroughly between uses.
- • No pressure: If something doesn't work, that's fine. The fun is in experimenting.
- • Keep checking in: Ask "Do you like this?" and adjust based on the answer.
Ready to try something new?
For dildos, clitoral suction toys or other toys, see their specific guide below. And if you don't have lubricant yet, a water-based lubricant works with any material and with condoms.
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